Childfree Friends article & when is the right time to have children?

I was interviewed a couple of months back for an iParenting.com article about how to keep your friendships with childfree friends healthy. While I don't always follow my own advice, here is the link to the article anyway: To Parent or Not to Parent: Remaining Friends with a Childfree Couple.

I have many friends who do not have children. Some are simply waiting for a few years, others are longing to have them and in the process of TTC, and a small few never want children (pal E got her tubes tied just before her 30th birthday - she really doesn't want kids). It is interesting how each of these friendships, while all important to me in some fashion, is different.

It is also interesting how most people I know seem to want to have children later in life. Boo was born when I was 30. My other friends have had their first offspring at 29, 30, 31, 33, 37, 38 and 40. There are a ton of articles about the differences in having children in your twenties, thirties and forties. For me, 30 was the right time. My husband and I had been together for over 10 years, my career was going well and so was his, we had a house (albeit a small one - too small, as we now know) and I got my twenties out of my system.

When is the best time in one's life to have children?


Cosmo GRRL! said...

The right time? The right time is when you're mature enough to put someone elses's life before your own.

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~Cathy~ said...

We tried for three years to have a child.... I guess someone else knew our "right" time better than we did! :)

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